Mums and Bubs
I always considered myself as a capable before I had a baby. I could replace the battery of my car, find my way in New York City without getting lost, and program my VCR. But, when my son was born, I lost my capabilities. Before his birth, I was very confident that I will handle my newborn, but I was a little frightened as well because of new upcoming responsibilities. Since my husband has to leave early in the morning for his office, he can’t help too much.
There is no one who tells you exactly how your life will be, with a newborn. If someone tells you, they won’t be able to look in your eyes because there aren’t too sure. Imagine: All the people who helped you in the starring days are gone back to their routines. You are very tired. There is breast milk all over your clothes, but you can hardly take a bath. Everyday tasks like planning what to wear or deciding what to eat are just gone. At the same time, you are responsible for the care of a newborn while you have no past experience. No wonder, every mom feels over-stressed, but one day they get over it in one way or another. Let’s take a look below to know about how to overcome the stress of initial days:
Set Reasonable Ambitions
Holly Hanke who is a mother of 14 month Nina, told that she set a goal for herself that I have to take a shower every day. Before going into the bath, she placed her infant on a bouncy seat and strapped her carefully. Then, she brought her in front of the bath and let the door remain open, so she can take a look on her after few minutes.
She said, “I don’t have much control over my life since my baby gets born, but taking a shower each day let me feel like I still have some control over my life. It helps me in dealing with postpartum aches and pains.”
Spend Time out of the House
Another mother, Hart shared her experience that I was confused regarding what to do with myself and the baby. I get bored of staying at my house all the day. So, I started going on a walk along with my baby and it left a great impact on my mood and daily routine. The fresh air and change of scenery were the excellent change for her and the infant.
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Redefine Your Priorities
There is no doubt that you were a very energetic person before giving birth to your child and you want to remain the same. But, try to understand that it is hard to meet with the same goals while you have a newborn to care. If you were cleaning your house every day before the baby, and you have decided to stay with the same goal, you are setting up very high standards. Try to redefine the meaning of clean and organized house and reduce your work limit.
Join a Mother’s Group
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Joining a mother’s group is a great opportunity and you should join at least one group if it is possible. Sharing your problems with others might give you some working solutions. If you are not getting the solutions, at least you are sharing your problems. If it is not possible in your area, try to join an online group to relieve stress of a newborn.
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Have Some Rest
In the initial days, you will found out that you are not getting enough time to sleep while your baby is napping. Sometimes, you even don’t fall asleep and your baby will start crying with hunger. Don’t use the time on dirty laundry while your baby was sleeping, spend it with yourself. Spend this time doing your favorite activity while staying near the baby. It’s a perfect way to relax down your body and feel a little better.
At the end, remember one thing that it will get better with time. When your baby becomes a little mature, you won’t need to stay around him or her all the time. In that phase, you will regain the control over your life and have enough time to spend on your personal activities.
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