Mums and Bubs
In the previous article we discussed a few basic steps about parenting and giving a better environment to our newly born on their way to life. This article is all about how to manage your priorities when you are a parent. Many of us have great jobs, a huge friend circle and maybe a lot of fantasies we wish to live and becoming a parent might put you into situations. Some parents usually have it sorted out but most of them do not usually understand what they are doing wrong. A few years or months earlier they were the best parents and now nobody knows why it has started falling apart. Trust me it is never the same as before when you are with two or more kids, but it can be a lot easier if you learn to put your bit into it. Do not forget once you were a child and your parents left every possible comfort, just to make you happy. So, the article is all about people who are already into parenthood.
Put your priorities straight
All the things in this world come with their own advantages and disadvantages and so does being a parent. If you have a single child, it is important to pay full attention to him or her. Major issues arise when you have other children at home; by this I mean to say in this case your responsibility doubles towards your newly born and your growing other children. Usually when the first child is born in the family, he usually gets all your attention and care and that is fair enough. The problem arises when the next child comes in and the care and attention slides towards the younger side of the generation. So it is very important you teach your children to be supportive and caring from the very first day and also pay equal attention to both or all your kiddies. In order to take care of the younger one do not overlook the needs and feelings of the other children, just because you think they’re mature enough to understand, no kid really understands that. In fact in many cases the distance between you and them starts growing.
Being Fair Just Matters
When you have kids at home it is your responsibility that each of them feels special about their place in the family. By this I do not mean that this is the only thing that happens but, it is a fact that, all the kids are not the same. It’s important to know your kids, don’t judge the others because you think all your kids are same. If any of them makes a mistake, don’t be judgmental and just give your verdict thinking that the older one is to be held responsible or the younger is the naughty one. Listen to your children, each of them; try to get into their thinking and make such a bond that they always feel comfortable telling you the toughest truths. It is human nature, if they do not find love and care where they most want it from, they usually end up looking for alternatives and that could be other people or even things we never want them to be a part of.
Consult the “child” in you
Usually, when we grow up and become parents, we understand a lot better how to be a good parent, we grow more protective and we realize all the things we did wrong and so we make sure we will never let our kids repeat the same mistakes. As a result, we forget what we did and all we end up doing is, becoming parents who do not want their kids to be wrong, instead of being parents, who should teach their children to differentiate between what’s right and what’s not. It does not really matter if your child is 2, 6 or 16 you have already been there, so just try to know their heart, put yourself in their place. That will let you understand their situation and heart better and trust me no stress pill can ever match the understanding that one gets from his parents. Do what you are great at doing, be you and listen the child that lives inside you.
